Let’s be honest, when it comes to sex, intimacy and sex, there are many opinions about what is acceptable, how many times a week we should do it, how many partners we have in the past and whether we should do it. show him. and or keep our bones in the cupboard.
Statistics show that couples have sex once a week. Is this a cause for concern? What is considered healthy?
Relationships and sexuality are different for everyone and therefore there is no one size fits all solution, but what suits you and what works for you depends on your life, relationships and lifestyle. The worst thing you can do is use your relationship with other people.
What causes the number of times a couple has sex after marriage to decrease?
Sometimes our partner doesn’t feel like doing something, and that’s normal. Sometimes we have bad days. Other times, things can help, such as stress at work, a difficult time, or a mismatch between your libidos (meaning that one of you has a strong libido). Real life involves commitment and responsibilities…housework, office politics, childcare, DIY, paying bills, raising kids, fixing cars, spending time in the bathroom, managing relationships with large family members, social activities, bad relationships (you have nothing left to do). self-associate or terminate) with others.
We forget to put more effort into “date night” or foreplay and romance doesn’t seem to carry the same weight. We can get so caught up in the action that everything else becomes normal so we stop trying.
Time and stress can translate into less energy for our partner, our relationship, and our sex. Interest fades and love becomes a distant memory. Therefore, we should take the time to listen to each other, create connections, intimacy, romance, sex, keep the fire alive and communicate regularly.
Is it possible to love someone without liking them?
Yes, in time, we can reach a point where we can love each other and think of ourselves as brothers or roommates, and not be interested in physical approach to each other. It’s more about relationships, liking each other and being good friends than romantic relationships.
At the same time, a person may go through life changes and decide that they have different sexual preferences, for example. become celibate for religious or other reasons, or decide that they are homosexual (no sexual interest in others, or little or no interest or desire for sex).
Is it possible for a couple to stop having sex with their spouse after a while? Being overweight can make a husband or wife not support their husband or wife because they do not like their appearance?
Yes, over time, a change in partner or relationship can cause a person to lose interest in their partner, for example: weight gain, cleanliness, sleeping habits, emotional neglect, abusive or controlling behavior.
Anxiety is a big problem and we often see negative processes such as alcohol, inactive lifestyle, sleep problems, antidepressants, etc., which can affect libido. It is possible that health problems such as erectile dysfunction or hormonal imbalance due to menopause, low testosterone due to aging, fatigue, or many other factors may be difficult to control due to the fact that they can send us directly to the corner of shame.
This is where you both need to be adults about the situation and talk about it to get to the bottom of it. If you don’t feel like you can do this together, talk to a professional who can help you work together while showing love and respect for each other and supporting each other through the process. Instead of holding yourself to a blame game or a fatality in a breakup or divorce.
How can couples improve their lives?
Sex and intimacy are basic needs. They are often considered interchangeable, but they are not the same. Sexual intercourse can help strengthen a couple’s bond, but friendship involves emotional intimacy. A relationship is a bond that allows a couple to share their inner world. Intimate relationships develop and deepen based on how a couple interacts, the quality of time a couple spends together, and the activities they do together.
Here are some things you can focus on:
Date Nights
Many therapists and teachers, including myself, advocate date nights. A date night is an opportunity for couples to disconnect from everything else in their daily lives and connect with each other. The main goal of a date night is to take couples out of their usual environment (such as the house) and bring them to a secluded place (such as a hotel or park) where they can relax. strong, happy in the company talking about things that are not common. . . Couples can use date nights to engage in deep conversations related to goals, struggles, or frustrations. It is also an opportunity for couples to be honest and express what they want from each other. Dating also involves a little effort in terms of appearance and dress – the same kind of effort we make at the beginning of a relationship. Remember? Date night does not apply to children or other family members. They do not need to do it at night. Be creative and have fun.
Flirting
In a new relationship, sex involves laughter, hot looks, and lots of touching. Newlyweds often send signals that show a mixture of interest and attraction. Dating is something you can continue to do throughout your relationship. Always compliment your partner on things like how they look or how you feel when you’re with them. smile, laugh and make eye contact. Use flirtatious touch… a lingering touch, physical eye contact or a butterfly kiss. Use flirting games to arouse curiosity!
Arrival and departure
Make immigration a love affair. For example, when you leave the house, give your partner a long kiss and tell them that you will be hungry. When you get home, give your partner a big hug and tell them you’re happy to see them.
Create a situation
Ambiance is basic. You can use things like candles, music, sexy lingerie to set the stage for the event. You can do small things such as paying attention to your grooming, wearing a perfume that you know your partner likes, giving your partner a small gift, preparing your favorite food, planning a surprise date or trip with your partner, or wearing something you know well. a beautiful partner.
Spoil and pamper
Whether it’s buying your partner a gift that you know they really want or rubbing their neck…how your partner appreciates it, this respect and love, the more likely they will want to be with you.
Resolve disputes
Every couple has conflicts in their relationship. This is normal and important. If a couple does not learn to manage conflict, in time, there will be no relationship. Conflict does not lead to the breakdown of relationships, but it leads to the inability to manage and resolve the conflict. If issues are not addressed and resolved, they can lead to more serious problems.
Keep the flame burning by learning about each other as you grow and develop in your relationship and as your needs change and change. It is important to do what pleases both partners and not just one of you. Find what that balance is for both of you and go ahead and do it together. Most importantly, have fun while doing it.